I have been pondering opposites today.
Opposite feelings...or ambivalence.
Good/bad. Right/wrong. Up/down...you get the idea...
Life and death are opposite, that's about as opposite as it gets!
What sometimes results from these opposites is a judgement placed on another because they seem different, and difference can be seen as wrong when viewed from a particular perspective.
I have learned that the more I accept what is, and what isn't, in a particular situation, person, group or even within myself, the less judgmental I feel about said situation, person, group or myself.
Accepting what is/isn't doesn't make it good or bad, right or wrong...
...it just is, period.
The tricky bit is accepting the negative without making it or them wrong. The 'wrong' in a situation or a person is the meaning we attach and how this meaning relates to aspects of who we are at the time.
By accepting 'what is' as neither good nor bad, freedom happens where judgement once stood. There is a freedom to be in the presence of a situation or person without making it mean anything.
I think judgement comes from fear of difference...fear of accepting difference. The funny thing is, there is no 'same'...we are all different in our own unique way, even twins are different!
And ain't that a beautiful thing!
The first step is accepting who we are fully, warts and all. When we accept our beauty and our flaws seamlessly as one whole then we accept others in the same way.
I leave you with my favourite subject...death, plus living because of it...
and a quote from the ever sexy, sultry...
The acceptance of death gives you more of a stake in life, in living life happily, as it should be lived. Living for the moment.
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