'You can't get it wrong and you never get it done'...such a freeing statement for me. Whew!
When I facilitate my workshop I tell participants that there is no right or wrong way to have a conversation about death. There is no prescribed way to grieve or share experiences and stories about the people in our lives who have died.
With the quote above I also see that there is no right or wrong way to live either. There is a beginning and an end with the body we are born into, but that's as final as our lives really are. What we do with the life we have and the time we have left is, at the end of the day, one big experiment, a game. Might as well make it a fun one, hey?
Knowing when my time in this body is done, hopefully at ripe old age after living a full life, that I have enjoyed it and made the best of it is really is all I can ask for. It simplifies the in between birth and death bits. This is my life, my time to experience what it means to this particular human in this body living this life. What happens before and after know one truly knows. There is no rule book, no one saying it should be this way or that way...no right or wrong way.
I'm not sure if you've noticed in the course of reading my blogs, or participating in my workshops, but I am not prescriptive. I don't tell anyone how they should or shouldn't be living their lives. I don't give advice unless it is asked for, and even then, I try to encourage people to find their own solutions as any good counsellor would. I merely present my perspective and if that resonates with you, fabulous, if not, oh well.
I do this in part because I hate being told what to do or to be given advice unsolicited. Always have and always will. I do love, however, constructive feedback, and there is a big difference...but I'm getting sidetracked here!
The point of this blog is about the sometimes-having-fun-sometimes-being-sad-in-between-birth-and-death-merry-go-round that is life and living. I want to highlight it because I sometimes forget about it and I don't think I'm alone in that! In the seriousness of running my own business, such as generating participants/clients/customers, and all that goes with it, I forget that I have just this one chance at living and experiencing what it means to be alive here and now.
I'm going to leave you today with a quote from Richard Dawkins on precisely how lucky we all really are to have been given the life we have. May you use your life for fun, pleasure, abundance and all manner of experiences to look back on with joy when it's time to say farewell!
For another day I am passionately yours,
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