Anniversaries, birthdays, holidays and New Year's Eve are often times when we remember the people in our lives who have died or have 'left' our lives in other ways.
I remember the people in my life who have died in visual ways. I remember where I was when I received the call that they died or the day of their funeral or the last time I saw them alive. It's the setting that I can see in my mind's eye and I remember every one of them as if they were yesterday.
But I don't dwell there...not in sadness anyway...
I choose to remember that person at their best and love them where they were at in their life before they died. It's just what I do to make my peace with death, I suppose.
Because of the way I approach death and dying I rarely see a person's death as a grief I will never get over. But perhaps there is only one that would make me feel this way and he's still alive, and is my son. The death of a child is just one of those death's that go against the grain of life and living and no amount of what I teach could ever change that, but for the space to share and grieve together.
Back to remembering...what do you remember about your 'dead people'?
Yes, that does sound morbid...but then again...death is about morbidity, but is it wrong to be so honest, blunt even? We all die, some much sooner than expected, and for this it is a loss.
In light of the recent deaths in Connecticut, USA, and also, the deaths of children everywhere, I share with you a video of Eric Clapton's song, written about his son who died suddenly and accidentally, in 1991, 'Tears in Heaven'...
Remembering can be sad, happy, and everything in between...
It keeps your heart beating another day for those you love
...tell them so...today.
Here you will find the musings of me...