Happy Mother's Day!!!!
I believe I have been very fortunate to have the mom I do. She was never a smothering mother, and that worked for both of us! She's never told me what or who I had to be in the world. Nor, has she ever pushed her viewpoint on me. She let me become who I wanted to be and I will forever appreciate this of her! We both are very strong, independent women in our own ways and it was this independence that shaped my life deeply in the way it has.
My mom taught me well. She taught me by letting me see the consequences of my actions. She taught me by giving me opportunities to find my sense of responsibility. She showed me that she loved me by her actions. Sometimes it was a snuggle on the couch or a hug. But sometimes these actions were the opposite of what love looked like to me, it felt like tough love. With the fullness of time I saw that it was her wisdom to look beyond the moment that has helped me grow.
I have looked beyond the moments now, as a mom myself, and can see the reasoning behind her parenting. Of course in those moments she may not have known how deeply her actions would affect me, then and now...especially now. I have taken many pages from her book and applied them to my own parenting.
I so love mothering my son, Aydn. Giving birth to him was the single most empowering moment of my life to date. I have loved raising him and he's made it very easy to be the kind of mom to him that my mom was with me, with a few tweaks of course! A wise, gentle soul and very independent...just like me and grandma!
I don't expect anything on Mother's Day, nor do I make a big deal out of it. I feel that however the day is celebrated should come from my son. I usually get a carefully crafted something from school and a hug. There have been moments on other days where I feel more a mother than any other time. One day Aydn said to me...'mum, I may not act like I need you, but in my heart I do'. I melted into a squishy puddle of love in that moment. I don't need a 'day' to let me know how motherhood works!
My mom and I are great friends. She knows me through and through. I see her for who she is as a woman more than a mom now, but she'll always be my mom. I love my mom for all her strength and grounding and it's this same strength and grounding that I pass on to my son. My only wish is that he can look back on his childhood with the same feelings for me that I have for my mom! It's all a mother could ask for really.
Happy Mother's Day to all of you out there, the mothers of this world, to my pregnant mummy friends and the mothers full of years and love.
For another day, I am passionately yours,
I took this photo a few days ago at my local beach. I arrived with my dog, Brock, for his evening walk just in time for this stunning display of Mother Nature and it took my breath away. I wasn't the only one appreciating the sunset either. There we were, a group of seemingly separate people, brought together by a force beyond our control. And yet we all stood in unison and in awe, each nodding to each other, recognising that this sunset was a magnificent sight.
I had just come through an intensely busy period. I was exhausted and wanted nothing more than to curl up under my bed covers, but our dog Brock needed his walk. He gets me out into all kinds of weather!
These are a few of the photos I've taken on my daily walks...and I will be forever grateful for having Brock in our life to get me out there. My son also appreciates our dog and his own opportunities for expressing one of his passions, Parkour!
I sometimes forget that all of this so close...silly me! I also sometimes forget that, in the midst of the busyness of business, of motherhood, of responsibility, and of the daily ins and outs of living, that I have just this one life in which to live...now. I forget that I can enjoy it now. I get caught up in worry and stress about things that will most likely take care of themselves in due course. It takes moments like walks in nature to realise that there is beauty in the stillness of a sunset, the blustery day of a storm, or the craziness that is my dog digging for his life!
I love taking photos of my experiences and I love sharing them with you. I want to show you my inspirations, my passions, my creativity and hopefully inspire you to live your life now, not someday, not after the doctor tells you you have one year, one month, one day to live. Live now. Love now. Laugh now.
I felt a need to retreat and regain some lost energy after the flurry of blog posts during April's Ultimate Blog Challenge. I have appreciated the quiet computer time and now I'm on my way again. I'm motivated, and reinvigorated, but with no destination other than living my life, this journey full of passion, purpose and possibility.
For another day, I am passionately yours,
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